Are you building a memory or creating a vacancy?

Over the past few years I’ve really tried to focus on creating opportunities to share time with my kids. I guess I’m trying to make up for all the times I screwed it up in the past. From date nights to family game night, I’ve found it doesn’t take a lot of money to make my kids happy. You know what they want most? Me. As crazy as that sounds, my kids just want a little part of me. Them. Me. Time. Together.

Memories are one of the most powerful stimuli for our brain. While no one knows for sure how many memories our brain can hold, some studies suggest it’s well over 100 million megabytes. That’s a lot of space! One memory can literally last a lifetime…for good or for bad. Are we taking time to build positive memories with our kids? Think of it this way…we all try to suppress bad memories from past events (some of you just thought of something right now). Our memories turn into “vacancies.” Ultimately we’re left with a void in our heart.

Good memories however, build a permanent foundation of positive thoughts. We’re investing into the health of our soul and of others. Most adults have the opportunity to pick and choose our memories. Kids don’t always have the same choice. As parents we hold an incredible amount of influence over our kids. It’s something that none of us should take for granted. Yet we go around treating everyday like everything revolves around us and what we want. The “me” attitude creates vacancies for everyone else. And you know what the sad thing is? Our kids love us anyway. Even when we chip away at their heart.

Take a moment this week to spend time with your kids. It may be as a family, with just the kids, or even a “one-on-one” moment. They may not thank you for it now, but they will. And that moment will make it all worthwhile.

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One Response to “NO VACANCY!”

  • Mel Says:

    I have seen so much difference in how you approach life…since you invited Jesus along with you on your journey. Our entire lives together have been good…even with the bad! But the last decade was amazing and life changing AND I can’t wait to see what’s next. Thank you for loving us and caring for us and showing it in your actions!!

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